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A kdy\u017e si nev\u00edte rady ani vy, ani dal\u0161\u00ed modern\u011b sm\u00fd\u0161lej\u00edc\u00ed matky, m\u016f\u017eete se obr\u00e1tit t\u0159eba na knihy. Takov\u00fdch, kter\u00e9 se zaob\u00edraj\u00ed v\u00fdchovou, je na trhu mnoho. Napsali je odborn\u00edci, kte\u0159\u00ed, jak douf\u00e1m, sami jsou rodi\u010di a cel\u00fd \u017eivot se zaob\u00edraj\u00ed d\u011btskou du\u0161\u00ed. Dnes je cel\u00fd sv\u011bt pln\u00fd ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fdch mlad\u00fdch lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se nemaj\u00ed r\u00e1di, jsou pod neust\u00e1l\u00fdm tlakem a hledaj\u00ed v\u00fdchodisko v pit\u00ed alkoholu, drog\u00e1ch, nebo zajdou do krajnosti a sp\u00e1chaj\u00ed sebevra\u017edu. Jejich budoucnost je ve va\u0161ich ruk\u00e1ch.  a u\u010dtesv\u00e9 mal\u00e9, aby se m\u011blo r\u00e1do. Ne\u0159\u00edkejte sv\u00e9mu d\u00edt\u011bti, \u017ee je hloup\u00e9, nebo o\u0161kliv\u00e9. Za\u010dne se podce\u0148ovat a z\u00edsk\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee ho maminka nem\u00e1 r\u00e1da, proto\u017ee nen\u00ed takov\u00e9, jak\u00e9 by si p\u0159\u00e1la m\u00edt. Ona slova typu \u201eJdi od toho, rad\u0161i to ud\u011bl\u00e1m sama!\u201c nebo \u201eAni to nezkou\u0161ej d\u011blat, stejn\u011b to zkaz\u00ed\u0161, \u0161koda materi\u00e1lu!\u201c jsou pro d\u00edt\u011b v kter\u00e9mkoli v\u011bku bolestiv\u00e1 a ponese si je cel\u00fd \u017eivot. Rad\u0161i mu jen pora\u010fte, nebo pokud bude souhlasit, pomozte, ale neodrazujte ho slovy, kter\u00e1 pochop\u00ed tak, pro v\u00e1s nen\u00ed dost dobr\u00e9 a samo je k ni\u010demu. Je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, aby byl d\u00edt\u011bti p\u0159edkl\u00e1d\u00e1n ur\u010dit\u00fd model. Je nesmysl d\u00edt\u011bti bit\u00edm \u201evysv\u011btlovat\u201c, \u017ee nesm\u00ed v\u016f\u010di druh\u00fdm pou\u017e\u00edvat n\u00e1sil\u00ed. Stejn\u011b nesmysln\u00e9 je po\u0159\u00eddit d\u00edt\u011bti zv\u00ed\u0159\u00e1tko, aby se nau\u010dilo ur\u010dit\u00e9 odpov\u011bdnosti, ale nevysv\u011btlit mu, jak se s \u017eiv\u00fdm tvorem nakl\u00e1d\u00e1 a \u017ee to nen\u00ed hra\u010dka, by\u0165 je velice roztomil\u00e9 a sv\u00e1d\u00ed k hran\u00ed. Nech\u00e1v\u00e1te ho d\u00edvat se na televizi a nev\u00edte, co sleduje? Mysl\u00edte, \u017ee je vhodn\u00e9, aby se d\u00edt\u011b d\u00edvalo na n\u00e1silnick\u00e9 sc\u00e9ny? Kdy\u017e u\u017e se v\u00e1m nepoda\u0159\u00ed uhl\u00eddat sledovan\u00fd program, vysv\u011btlete mu, \u017ee herci se nic nestalo, ale ve skute\u010dnosti by takov\u00e1 situace skon\u010dila velkou bolest\u00ed a smrt\u00ed. Rozmohl se velk\u00fd ne\u0161var. Spousta d\u011bt\u00ed nem\u00e1 od rodi\u010d\u016f stanoven\u00e9 hranice. M\u00e1m pocit, jako by se rodi\u010de b\u00e1li reakce sv\u00fdch potomk\u016f na slovo ne. P\u0159itom pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed c\u00edtit, kde jsou jejich hranice. Jejich pevnost nem\u00e1 nic spole\u010dn\u00e9ho a\u0165 u\u017e s fyzick\u00fdm, \u010di psychick\u00fdm n\u00e1sil\u00edm, nebo k\u0159ikem. Jde sp\u00ed\u0161 o ur\u010ditost v postoj\u00edch a hlasu. Pravda, v dob\u011b dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edky tomu nebudete zrovna obl\u00edben\u00ed, riskujete h\u00e1dky, ale nenechte se zlomit. Jinak v\u00e1s m\u00e1 potomek na lopatk\u00e1ch. Nebu\u010fte a\u017e p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 ochranitel\u0161t\u00ed. V\u00e1\u0161 \u017eivot se nesm\u00ed to\u010dit jen kolem nich. Nep\u0159isuzujte jim zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed v\u00fdznam (uskute\u010d\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed rodi\u010dovsk\u00fdch p\u0159edstav, nebo aby byly va\u0161\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00ed n\u00e1pln\u00ed). Stanou se tak \u017eivota neschopn\u00fdmi. Respektujte va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b, posilujte v n\u011bm pocit jeho vlastn\u00ed hodnoty, utvrd\u00edte v n\u011bm spolehlivost a usnadn\u00edte orientaci v \u017eivot\u011b. C\u00edt\u00ed-li, \u017ee je p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1no takov\u00e9, jak\u00e9 je, vydr\u017e\u00ed frustrace i zklam\u00e1n\u00ed. Nenechte ho \u0159e\u0161it si samostatn\u011b probl\u00e9my, z\u00edsk\u00e1 t\u00edm pocit, \u017ee je v\u00e1m lhostejn\u00e9. V nemoci ho nelitujte, to vede k sebel\u00edtosti. Nemoc prost\u011b pat\u0159\u00ed k \u017eivotu. \u0158e\u0161te situace spr\u00e1vn\u011b a vychov\u00e1te slu\u0161n\u00e9ho a samostatn\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00fd se v \u017eivot\u011b ani ve sv\u011bt\u011b neztrat\u00ed.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                "},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Vsa\u010fte na to spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed","item":"https:\/\/www.ecr-cz.cz\/vsadte-na-to-spravne-reseni\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]